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Holidays and Housing Hypothesising

It's LJ time!!!

So, we're currently in Perth on school holidays and it's LOVELY! It's lovely seeing all my friends again and talking to them and just feeling like I can emotionally relate to people once more! It's been pretty hard up in the Creek. Making new friends in hard. Wah! It's definitely getting better and easier and all that, but it takes time and I'd been getting a bit weary emotionally and spiritually because of it.

We've been doing lots of shopping! YAY! I bought pants and cosmetics and a fancy clock for our friends' wedding this coming weekend - which I'd looked EVERYWHERE for that kind of clock and couldn't find one that was (1)nice looking, (2)less than $400 (not that that was our budget, but all the ones I found were that price!!) and (3)shipped to Australia/was already in Australia. But today, success!! Mind you, it is "damaged" (it has no glass to guard its face), but that meant it came in under our budget and it still looks perfectly good! I was SO excited when I saw it in store at the price it was at. SO. EXCITED. So, Kieran and Anna, if you're reading this, your clock is very close to perfect, but you can't return it if you hate it ;)

I've been catching up with so many friends, which has been great, but also wearying to see so many people in such a short space of time. Yesterday after church I kinda crashed. I was so tired all mid-arvo that I ended up having a nap late arvo and sleeping through another friend-catch up :(. Which I'm quite sad by. But I desperately needed to sleep/space out.

We are staying with James' family, which is going rather well. No ill feelings between me and the in laws, So yay for that! There's a display village down the road from their house, so today we had a wander through the homes. They were all very nice and impressive, as display homes should be. One was completely ridiculous! Super big, few bedrooms, loads of miscellaneous rooms, wasting precious space. But most were quite nice. It's very unlikely that we'll ever buy a house though.

The easy way to live this life would follow this plan: Both James and I would work very hard at our jobs in the Creek. We wouldn't have children, but just work hard for several years. It'd probably take 5-6 years of both of us working in order to buy/build a house outright with no mortgage. Then we'd start having children, James would work so we'd have basics like food and could pay bills and life would go fairly well for us financially. But that's not our plan. Our plan is to start trying for a family now, so we're only living/saving 1 income. James'd work for fewer years, then go to Theological college and we'd subsist on our savings. Then we'll go into missionary/ministry work.

I find it a struggle sometimes because it would be EASY to go with the first plan. It's comfortable and secure. It's easy to say we'll work a lot first and then have a cushy future. It's harder to go with the more difficult kids-now-no-house option. It's way more uncertain. But the fact of the matter is that our priorities lie in that direction. Mission work is more important than owning and having the stability of a house. Children are more important than any amount of money we could save, or luxury we could enjoy by me working. It's hard to consider that future we're deciding on and part of me is annoyed for it. But I trust that it's worth it.

Maybe God will drop a few hundred thousand dollars in our laps and we could afford a nice house. But we won't hold our breath :)

I bought some new tea from T2 today and James has said he might like to start appreciating tea. This makes me happy and I think we need ANOTHER trip to T2 to buy him some more tea and maybe even a special teacup just for him! James doesn't agree. Lol

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It's definitely an either/or scenario. We could just save for a large deposit and go from there. But we'd be nervous of what we'd live on while James was studying and I'd be a full time Mum.

We could work around it, maybe James could study part time and take care of kids while I work full time, or some sort of work/study/child-rearing combo between the two of us. But that'd be a decision to make in 4 years when we've finished our stint in Halls Creek. That decision doesn't feel terribly different from the path we've chosen because it'd still be hard and complicated. Mortgage paying/rent paying are not dissimilar and mortgage paying comes with one of us working as our saving would have been pooled into a down payment. *sigh* so complicated!

have u ever thought that u might end up buying a house oversees, or wherever you're going to be doing some missionary work? Australia is one of the most expensive places in the world to buy a house now. You could buy 4 houses in USA for the price of one in Australia. I wonder if Simon-Peter's mother-in-laws's house in Capernaum is on the market - it seems that Jesus was probably able to lay his head there on more than one occasion. As for display homes - pffft!

Notwithstanding that though - would James like a special tea cup from us for his birthday? Glad you're enjoying the time catching up with friends, but enjoy having a rest too - I don't think you'd want to get back to HC burnt out eh?

The questions are: where are we going to live while James is studying at Trinity? How is all that money we've saved going to be used while James is studying at Trinity?

If we wait to buy a house overseas, we'll be living on our savings via rent, slowly depleting it over 4-6yrs in Perth, making owning a house less likely wherever we end up. If we end up buying we could own our house outright, or with a minimal mortgage and then resell it when we move overseas in order to buy a house there.

It's all something to think more seriously about WHEN THE TIME COMES, but it's interesting to think about now :)

I'm sure James would like a special tea cup for his birthday.

Mission work is more important than owning and having the stability of a house.

I also keep feeling the pressure of taking the easy path. It's just so fun and easy! I find that I'm often repeating almost exactly what you wrote to myself when I feel like it would be heaps nicer to throw it all in and just do the regular thing.

I love your plan. Before Chris and I heard the call to ministry, we were sort of on your first plan, and the result was comparison stealing joy all the time, not to mention a mortgage that is a little tight and now a home we can't sell easily in order to go to the mission field. God will work all that out, but if I had trusted Him more in our early plannings, we'd be better off.

This is from a friend of a friend's blog (it's private so I've pasted here with her permission):

When "We're due!" comes right after "I do!"
Having a baby during your first year of marriage is not necessarily a socially acceptable practice. There are finances to be considered, the much-coveted “couple’s alone time” to preserve, and freedoms to cherish: I mean, who wants to give up vacations and traveling, spontaneous dates, and long hours of uninterrupted communication?

Um, we did.

Obviously, Eddie and I did things just a wee bit differently than most. I had a sweet friend ask me for my thoughts on our counter-cultural decision: Are we glad we didn’t wait? Would we recommend it to other newlywed couples?

While there’s no one “right way,” and every couple must seek the Lord’s heart and leading for their own family situation, Eddie and I are so glad we jumped right in. So whether or not you think we’re crazy (which we very well may be), here is my Top 10 list of reasons why it’s wonderful to say “We’re due!” right after “I do!”

I’ve seen the depth and strength and authenticity of my husband’s character in stunning new ways since he’s become a father.
From a difficult pregnancy to post-partum blues to my present exhaustion, I’ve learned to depend upon my husband—and not get away with my independent, self-reliant spirit. I’ve tangibly needed Eddie on a daily basis.
We’ve enjoyed learning and researching and making decisions together about how God is leading us to parent our little man.
We’ve laughed more together since Jeremy’s birth than ever before.
We want to adopt God’s heart for children, to love “the fruit of the womb” that He gives, and not think of kiddos as inconveniences, budget busters, or freedom killers.
We didn’t have time to establish our own routine or habits for Jeremy to “interrupt.” When someone warned us about this potential frustration, we laughed and explained we haven't been together long enough to know the difference!
Eddie and I said early on in our dating relationship that we wanted to be “struggle buddies”—to not use our relationship to avoid the struggles of life, but to face them head-on together. Both pregnancy and our first month of parenting have already given us many more opportunities for just that!
There's something to be said about loving each other through exhaustion.
There’s been no time to get too comfortable and secure in "newlywedness," that’s for sure—we’re in a constant state of change and uncertainty, which forces us to trust the Lord in new ways.
Who needs fun-n-spicy dates?! We have a standing date to see each other multiple times in the middle of the night!

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